For some it's easier than for others but as times passes and situations occur we need to adapt at some points in our lives. Adapting isn't about excepting but about how you deal with it. Being stubborn or being steadfast is a good thing till a certain limit. If I didn't except the fact that I have to use a wheelchair everyday to move I would make life very hard on myself because this is the way it is, and I can't change anything about it. Pain is a reality but suffering is optional. Ofcourse I hope and dream that in the future this can change but in the meanwhile I accept that this is what I have to deal with. I am stubborn when it comes to being independent and preferring to first try myself before letting another doing something for me. I have my principles but keep adjusting. Personal growth, living intentionally and pursuing your goals, that is adapting to me.
The other day I was waiting at the airport with my friend and again they did not have any wheelchair assistance on time. It was not communicated internally therefor we had to wait and the plane even got delayed. My friend asked me how I did not lose my cool because this did not have to happen. Situations can become stressful and it's not crazy to become angry in those moments. But I don't care anymore, not worth to worry and lose my cool over something I have no influence on in that moment. I just kept calm till the problem was solved. It is just an small example of many uncomfortable and awkward situations regarding my disability.
Luckily good things also happen, it's great to see some people are willing to help when they notice it's necessary. Again, balance is the key to all of it. It's wrong to assume that disabled people are lazy or get priority in situations. It's also wrong to assume we can't do anything at all. I said it before, and I will say it again, being disabled is hard! And if the smallest things can just be in our advantage for once, we are happy about it. And no able-bodied should be jealous about it, ever. I prefer to walk but I can't. So you take the stairs and let me use the elevator. Adapting is not easy, but that is why it makes you strong. You have to be smart, creative and think about solutions. Adjust.
If you want to lose weight, you need to adapt your lifestyle otherwise change won't happen. If you are in a bad relationship, you might need to change communication or behaviour. There is always a choice. You either smile back or be an asshole but it will have an effect. Adapting is how we improve. Expand your comfort zone step by step and turn the unknown into known. We need to adapt to situations and keep learning while being true to ourself. It's easy to say, and hard to do. But Hey! Pressure and time can create a coal pebble into a diamond.
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